Choosing to become a Bar or Bat Mitzvah is an important decision to make. It helps connect you to the past, present, and future of the Jewish people. Humanistic Jews believe that boys, who complete a Bar Mitzvah, and girls, who complete a Bat Mitzvah, should be treated equally and that children of intermarried couples should have equal status, no matter which parent is Jewish.

Typically, an individual completes his or her Bar/Bat Mitzvah at thirteen years of age. However, adults who would like to publicly proclaim their belief in Humanistic Judaism are welcome to become a Bar/Bat Mitzvah as well.

Participants find our approach to Bar and Bat Mitzvah services very rewarding. Each student selects a topic related to the Jewish experience and then receives individualized assistance in researching and learning about the topic. The student then presents the research during a special ceremony honoring him or her. Some past topics have included Jews Around the World and Jews in Science.

Enjoy a personalized and meaningful service that will provide you with fond memories. Tutoring for Bar and Bat Mitzvah is open to members and non-members. Please contact us if you are interested in enrolling.


Jeffrey Schesnol has been Or Adams Ceremonial Leader for 2 years conducting Shabbat and Holiday celebrations and services regularly. He has guided Bar and Bat Mitzvah celebrations and our Adult Education discussions. Jeffrey is now in his 3rd year of Para-Rabbinic training through the International Institute of Secular Humanistic Judaism toward his 2015 ordination as a Madrikh (guide). He has qualified to add the role of pastoral guide and counselor to his responsibilities by performing Baby Welcoming/Naming or Adoption ceremonies of Brit Ahavah (Covenant of Love) or Brit Shalom (Covenant of Peace). Funerals, Memorial Services, and Unveilings as life-affirming celebrations and remembrances which are performed with dignity and love. Jeffrey continues Bar and Bat Mitzvah services for children and adults as celebrations of the beginnings of coming of age and the maturity process with responsibility or a life passage of understanding and achievement celebrating Jewish community connection.